Monday evening, I attended a presentation at the headquarters for a wonderful organization which endeavors to ensure that abused, neglected and abandoned children have a safe and permanent home.

 

This particular session concerned domestic violence. Of course, the children in the target population are all victims of some form of domestic violence. My new friend and guide, Ches Blevins, MPH, a professional who works in the field of violence prevention was the presenter. Since "violence" is currently up on my radar screen, I was very interested, not only in his presentation, but also in the audience, which consisted of professionals and volunteers who assist the organization. I derived a great deal of knowledge and awareness from the event.

 

An epiphany occurred for me when Ches asked us to form groups of four people so that we could discuss various statements that were written on cards. Our group had about half-a-dozen. One said, "The world is a safe place." The other three panel members rejected the statement out of hand and agreed to disagree with the statement.

 

I invite you too consider your reaction to "The world is a safe place." If we disagree with it, I suppose that we tell ourselves and those around us that it is OK to live in constant fear. My initial reaction (from my brain) was that the world is unsafe. Upon reflection, I choose to reject my mind's initial reaction. The world is a safe place. There are events and people who bring danger to our life situations. It would behoove us to be aware of that.

 

If we choose to pass on the vibration of fear of the world, especially to children in our care, how are we assisting these wounded people to heal? Care givers would be well advised to examine their own vibrations, since those are passed directly to all people they interact with. There is already an enormous energy field of fear and pain in abused children...enough said here.

 

Awareness is our very nature. Fear feeds pain. Please do not pass along the fear.

 

The world is a safe place.

During these past two months, I have been able to bring The Freedom Step healing program into lots of different venues. I did some sessions at a few recovery homes for women. These events occurred because I was invited by someone in the facility. The managers trust that The Freedom Step brings something of value to the residents. It is such a joy to watch participants discover the healing that takes place only through their own efforts, and it works with amazing consistency. I observe at least one true miracle of healing in each of these visits, often more. The experience of Pure Awareness that happens for the first time in their life underscores the extraordinary value of this simple, powerful, elegant program.

Some of you may know that last month I met Chesley Blevins, MPH who is with San Diego County's Office of Violence Prevention. After a short informal meeting with Ches, he became interested in The Freedom Step right away. He thought that perhaps this energy healing approach to unresolved emotional pain could assist professionals in the field with another tool. On October 3rd, 15 DV professionals came to the Scripps Wellness Center in La Jolla where we met for two hours. None of the attendees had any previous knowledge or expectations regarding TFS. I provided them with a rather extensive evaluation form, asking for their take on our session.

The survey report gave The Freedom Step high marks for this session, saying, in part, "... when asked if they would like to learn more about the Freedom Step protocols, 100% of respondents reported  a resounding ‘yes.' Overall, the professionals that attended this workshop felt that the experience was very valuable, that the presenter was ‘enthusiastic" and ‘inspiring", and that the explanations and examples/analogies were very relevant. The experiential portion of the workshop was reported to be especially valuable to these individuals."

Surveys such as this will be of extraordinary value as we seek financial assistance (grants, donations, etc.) for the non-profit corporation now in formation. It is our intention to provide training for interested practitioners to become teachers and coaches, proficient in the healing techniques of The Freedom Step. In this way, The Freedom Step energy healing protocols can move out into the community, assisting wherever unresolved emotional pain is destroying people.

The Mind Whisperer: The Freedom Step Out of Slavery is selling quite well. Thus far the sales have been, for the most part, from my own personal stock and have been achieved without advertising or outside promotion. Word of mouth has been my sales assistant. It is also available at a couple of independent book stores and on Amazon & Barnes and Noble.com. People have bought more than 200 copies since June. I'm told that's good. Readers seem to like the book a great deal.  

I expect to have the audio book available in a few months.  

Now and again, I am posting blogs and articles on the website.

Thanks for any interest you may have in this program.

I continue to wish you all the very best.

Last week, Chesley Blevins arranged for a group of professional men and women who work in the domestic violence field to meet with me. Ches works for the County of San Diego. Violence abatement is his speciality.  

I met Ches a few weeks ago. He became interested in The Freedom Step right away. He thought that perhaps this energy healing approach to unresolved emotional pain could assist professionals in the field with another tool. Last Friday, fifteen people came to the Scripps Wellness Center in La Jolla and we had a two hour meeting. None of the attendees had any previous knowledge or expectations regarding TFS. I honor each of them for their dedication to what they do and for their interest in a new path. 

Six of them bought the book!

I feel a strong pull coming from the domestic violence arena. Today, I posted an article entitled "Violence...It's an Addiction."

On pp 83 & 84 of The Mind Whisperer, I talk about the primordial response to guilt and shame by the two to three-year-old child. One of the first responses to this irresolvable pain is violence. This is a learned behavior that the child employs to resolve the pain. It never works, and it continues to grow just like all addictive behavior. 

 

When most of us hear the word “addict” and the accompanying word “addiction,” we often feel some sort of uncomfortable charge in our system, largely because of our own life experiences with and around addicts and addictions. Here, I would like to take the charge out of those words by coming to an agreement about what addiction means. In my life, any ego solution that is not in my best interest that I use to relieve my own unresolved emotional pain, when repeated, is an addiction! 

There is one fundamental truth that all addicts know at the gut level.  We hate emotional pain!  I invite you to consider that “normal” people cannot stand it either. Emotional pain is an energy field in our operating system (between our throat and our solar-plexus). It can be called a “pain body.” The pain body is a negative energy field, a discrete, invisible entity that occupies, often seems to possess, our bodies and minds.  

This pain body could be pain that we had with us upon our arrival; energy junk, trauma that may have settled in us as an inheritance, a residue from our forebears, a family gift. We may call this our innate pain body. The innate pain body forms the basis upon which all emotional pain can continue to accumulate. As we aged, our conditioners (parents, etc.) and our dysfunctional society often controlled us by feeding more emotional pain into the system. In our nascent years (pre-cognitive, mostly pre-sentient), we were incapable of resolving the energy of those feelings. We kept them in our system as viruses…pain bodies. 

As we aged, we begin to experience the dance of the hungry pain body. This is so for all of us. All energy needs to be fed in order to survive. The pain body is a negative energy field that ebbs and flows in our system. It requires food that is of a like vibration. That is the law of attraction. It cannot resonate with and digest positive, joyful, life-enhancing energy. When the pain body emerges, it says, feed me! 

The nearest source of pain to feed the pain body is found in our minds. The mind, thinking that it has plenty of negative thoughts about life to satisfy the hungry beast, says, OK, here’s some energy food. The pain body gobbles it up. The mind’s pain supply is limited. Eventually the mind runs out of food. The pain body says, Feed me!! I’m still here, and I’m still hungry! We then need to look outside of our body for energy that is vibrating at the same relative frequency. Remember, the pain body cannot feed on positive, healthy vibrations. When we forage for energy to feed our pain body, we often need to create the energy. We create or bring up pain in others to feed our pain body. Anybody within our energy field will do. More often than not, we turn to family, friends, loved ones or co-workers as victims. The resultant pain, often manifesting as verbal or physical violence severely damages all relationships. It certainly disrupts peace and joy. 

Curiously enough, once the pain body has had enough to eat, it in effect belches, and then goes into a dormant state. It will come back later for another feeding. We all know the dance of the pain body. What we are left with after the feeding is the enormous havoc wreaked by our opting to dance with the pain.  

The prime directive of the pain body as fed by the ego-driven mind seems to be the generation and maintenance of emotional trauma in the host. The host would, of course, be you and me. 

When we try to resolve that pain with any ego (mind) solution, we never experience permanent or even long-term resolution. Examples of ego solutions, which often are not in our best interests, are:

• drinking alcohol
• ingesting psychotropic drugs (prescribed and non-prescribed)
• smoking
• eating
• gambling
• VIOLENCE

 

When these “solutions” become excessive and repetitive, they are called addictions. The solutions often lead to even more emotional pain.

 

• All addiction is caused by unresolved emotional pain. 
• All addiction is addiction to the ego!

 

While certain substances can be physically or psychologically addictive, addictions are also emotionally entrenched habits we have unconsciously created in an effort to avoid having to feel unresolved emotional pain.

 

The addiction is not the problem. It has merely served as the toxic, ineffective, often destructive method for dealing with the problem of unresolved emotional pain…until the addiction itself becomes the problem. That is why traditional treatment has often been only partially, temporarily effective.  Most traditional treatment programs, including those involved in stopping violent behavior at all age levels, tend to focus on the addictive behavior, not the problem.

 

One goal of The Freedom Step is to heal the real problem rather than treat the symptom.  The difference between the two is that:

• With treatment, the situation remains the same, that is, the treatment goes to the addiction.  Whereas,
• With healing, the resolution is elicited by changing the focus to the underlying cause of the situation.  The resolution brings about the absolute removal of the cause.

 

It is one thing to prescribe medicine for high blood pressure.  It is quite another to bring about changes in the patient’s life so that he stops being angry and tense.

 

Awareness of this is essential. If we treat only our chemical or psychological symptom, we are avoiding the real problem. We then relapse into our primary addiction “of choice.” If that is physical or psychological violence, everyone in our personal community immediately suffers and the cycle continues.  

So how do we address and “heal” the causes of addiction (past/present emotional pain) so that the symptoms (addictive behaviors) may be eliminated completely? 

 

The Freedom Step came into existence as a vehicle to bring healing to all who suffer from unresolved emotional pain.  That would include virtually everybody on this planet. The primary mission of The Freedom Step is to enable the participant to take the critical consciousness step out of the bondage of ego-driven, unresolved emotional pain into the light of Pure Awareness, our essential nature. The Freedom Step introduces us to our own instinctive anti-virus.

 

 

Recently I began the process of making an audio book of The Mind Whisperer. Steve Lanning, my good friend and audio/video mentor, and I were discussing the project. I told Steve about a quote that attracted me that described The Freedom Step. The fourteenth century Persian poet and philosopher, Hafiz said, “I am a hole in a flute that the Christ’s breath moves through - listen to this music.”

 

Flute music appeals to me as a spiritual expression of Spirit’s breath. So, I was thinking about how the flute could be introduced into the audio projects of The Freedom Step.

 

One morning, my friend Katie Dexter and I were meditating. Katie asked me, “Where is that music coming from?” I then took notice of Native American flute music coming from the parking lot. I knew that this was what I was seeking.

 

A man was listening to a CD in his truck. When I asked him about it, he told me that it is called “Spirit Flute.” He didn’t know the performer. He told me that he had bought it at a store called A Trading Post in Lakeside, California. I contacted Lisbet. She and her husband Robert own A Trading Post. There they sell mostly Native American artifacts and merchandise. She did not have the CD and thought it may not be available.

 

She told me that her friend, Eddie Lone Wolf is a really talented flutist. I contacted Eddie. Lisbet and Robert opened their store to us and we did a test recording in their back room. What you can find on the site if you hit the “Audio” button is what we recorded that day. This is the first take amid the ambient noise of the neighborhood and the store. We liked the first take.

 

This is now the introduction music for the audio book and the beginning of what I hope to be a long relationship with Eddie and his extraordinary spirit. Thanks, Lisbet and Robert. As always, my thanks go out to Steve Lanning for the sounds and Steve Oliver for the website work.

Some decades ago, I was speaking to a friend of mine about my difficult life. Notice that I said speaking “to,” not “with.” Whenever I am complaining about how terrible “life” is treating me, it is generally a monologue. Others’ input is generally not needed to move my tirades along. Mine, that day, was filled with angst. I was holding forth about the torment that life dealt me at work, at home, everywhere. “I’m so depressed!”

 

My friend immediately became my mentor when he asked me, “When is the last gdamn time you thought about anybody besides yourself?” I began to stammer something about how I think about other people all the time… “I don’t mean,” he said, “thinking about people in comparison to you, Marty. I mean, the last time you thought about anyone else…period!" He went on to tell me that depression is a selfish, self-serving mental condition, because it is all about me. It is only about me.

 

Depression is a condition wherein we are unable to accept the reality of Now being just as it is. That is at least a silly thought, because we are denying what may be one of the few undeniable facts in our life situations. What is…is! It is our ego-driven mind (I call mine Toby) that tells us, “This ain’t right.” Well, it may not seem to be going the way that we planned, but it is what it is. Once we are able to accept that, we free our wonderful mind from the bondage of our whining, complaining ego, allowing our brain to participate with the universal mind (Creator) in manifesting reality.

 

I am by no means making light of some very serious mental conditions that are diagnosed as dangerous, life-sapping depression. What I refer to here is the condition that we all know about and often share. We think that just because we feel bad a lot of the time and that life just doesn’t seem to be going our way (Ever!), that we are depressed. When we feel good, we say that we’re manic (!!). So lots of us walk around as self-diagnosed bi-polar victims of life. Some of us pay a great deal of money to have people confirm that for us.  

 

I am not qualified to diagnose anybody’s mental condition, nor am I interested in doing so. My experience is that when I have found my life situation sliding into “depression,” it was caused by the energy of unresolved emotional pain. I found my own ongoing solution for that condition in The Freedom Step. Toby’s need to force me into prolonged negative states is ineffective against the power of my awareness.

Marty Murphy, founder of the Freedom Step and author of The Mind Whisperer, will return to the Ideal Hotel to conduct a 2½ hour seminar.

Saturday, August 23^rd from 2:00 to 4:30pm

Using cutting-edge energy healing and meditation techniques, you will learn to eliminate those conditions that block the free flow of Love.  The ego's need to be separate from Life is at the root of the seeming lack of true Love.  We are already complete. Experience "Wholeness" and discover the enormous Power of your essential nature, where Love flows freely and relationships are fulfilling and liberating!

$25 at the door.

RSVP at thefreedomstep.com

Google is a marvelous machine..."real solutions for relationship problems" = www.thefreedomstep.com. So, here I go, wanting to be free of my own emotional pain and other people's emotional pain which I choose to carry around with me. What a state to look forward to: Setting down the emotional pain, leaving the ego alone, and walking forward into awareness. Thank you Marty for having your message out on the world wide web. :) -mishellerose

Today, I finished reading The Mind Whisperer into an audio recorder. My dear and generous friend, Steve Lanning tells me that he will edit the recording into a book on MP3. I know that he will do that.

Steve is the guy who literally gave me a DVD of my comedy and music show last year. he edited the whole thing, a three-camera shoot and produced a wonderful little DVD for me to use to promote my entertainment efforts.

Steve continues to give to me. I continue to be most grateful and trust that some day I can return the generosity.

In the meantime, I'm excited to hear how the book sounds.

The 501c3 corporation is now being formed. Another friend, Katie Dexter, my good buddy for twenty years, has taken the task upon herself to make the non-profit corporation happen.

The Freedom Step and I are blessed indeed.